Spending my Labor Day weekend in Ithaca and looooving it! I missed this town so much. Not loving the rain though. Don’t like this kind of being wet.

I wonder what’ll come out of this piñata when I hit it…?

(via geekdomme)

Oh and in other news, I’m reachable via email once more! Sat down today and dealt with the months’ long backlog (hi everybody! Still have a few left I’m working on, if you’re waiting, but it’ll be zero very soon!) Seeing an inbox with single digit number of emails feels better than an orgasm, haha. This way I’ll be able to actually keep up with them as they come in! So if you’d prefer to email (vs tumblr mail) something in regards to my last post, feel free.

"But I don’t wanna be ‘a sub’! So why does it turn me on so much?!" And other questions.

Lately, I’ve been having a lot of questions from men who are interested in submission, considering the idea of submission, wondering if submission is for them, etc. Many of them ask how other men “came to terms with” or “accepted” their submissive desires.

(I get this question literally daily, so to all you lovely, curious, men worried that submission (or kink at all) is somehow “wrong,” you’re not the only one! In fact, I’d say the vast majority of kinksters go through something like seven stages, haha. First inkling, curiosity, shame, arousal, confusion, embarrassment, excitement, nervous exploration, and/or any combination of the above. It’s soooo worth the brain power to think about! Self-exploration and introspection for the win!)

Anyway! I could write my advice, and often I do try to craft the best reply I can, but seeing as I have not personally had the experience of realizing a desire for submission and then embracing it, I don’t think it is very helpful.

That’s where you come in!
I’m looking to build a master list of posts that have something to do with the theme of:
- realizing you’re interested in submission
- wondering why you like submission
- coming to terms with submissive inclinations
- thoughts about being submissive vs a switch vs dominant in individual scenes vs as an identity label
- what it means to you to be submissive
- or anything else along those lines!

(It can be be or about any gender, by the way! This issue isn’t specific to men at all, I just personally see the question from them a lot more, and I think they have some unique hurdles in the way of what Society Says and all that jazz. But again, looking for stuff about anybody, any gender, having realizations about submission.)

If you want to write something (long or short!), that would be absolutely amazing and wonderful. If you know of an article, blog post, etc somewhere else online, I’d appreciate you sending me the link. Meanwhile, I’ll be off doing some searching of my own (I already know of a few fantastic resources that I intend on linking to! Ferns, disheveled domina, come to mind!), and possibly interviewing some of the lovely men in my life. I’ll also post this on my other blog (which is already pretty dedicated to this topic *smile*), and hope some of y’all might reblog this too so I can collect as much as possible.

I look forward to seeing what I can collect! It would make me so happy to have a master post I can refer to when these potential burgeoning kinksters write to me.

Maria

Oldie but a goodie.

Oldie but a goodie.

(via growlbadkitty)

modernfemdom:

I am very displeased with your service, you are dismissed for now.
And hopefully only for now.

modernfemdom:

I am very displeased with your service, you are dismissed for now.

And hopefully only for now.
afraidtowant:

His other hand’s untied.  Let’s go with that.  In fact, that one wrist is the only thing on his body bound.  He’s still strong — he can still grab and thrust.  He can still wrap his arm around you back and grab hold of the back of your neck while he kisses you.  He can bury his fingers in your cunt.  Hell, he can still probably bend you over the side of the bed and give you the fucking that makes your world shake. And when your legs give out in the quivering, he can still wrap that one arm around your waist and hold you up to keep his cock deep inside you.
But that one arm — that one wrist firmly bound — that keeps him where you want him: at the bed.  Your fuck.  Aggressive, strong, willful, and useful in all those qualities — and still wholly yours.

Sounds like my S.

afraidtowant:

His other hand’s untied.  Let’s go with that.  In fact, that one wrist is the only thing on his body bound.  He’s still strong — he can still grab and thrust.  He can still wrap his arm around you back and grab hold of the back of your neck while he kisses you.  He can bury his fingers in your cunt.  Hell, he can still probably bend you over the side of the bed and give you the fucking that makes your world shake. And when your legs give out in the quivering, he can still wrap that one arm around your waist and hold you up to keep his cock deep inside you.

But that one arm — that one wrist firmly bound — that keeps him where you want him: at the bed.  Your fuck.  Aggressive, strong, willful, and useful in all those qualities — and still wholly yours.

Sounds like my S.

humansofnewyork:

"It takes much more than being physically present. Your family needs your attention. I realized this very young. One day I asked my wife why the children weren’t listening to me, and she said: ‘Because you never listen to them.’"
Not porn but I like it. Applies to any relationship.

humansofnewyork:

"It takes much more than being physically present. Your family needs your attention. I realized this very young. One day I asked my wife why the children weren’t listening to me, and she said: ‘Because you never listen to them.’"

Not porn but I like it. Applies to any relationship.

Oh the things that humans do… I think I like the saxophone one even better: http://youtu.be/NboI0QF3vVM

urtongue43:

girlsrule-subsdrool:

Leash + gag = leag? gash? gagsh? leg? No no no.  None of those work. It may not have a name, but it’s hot nonetheless.

Gleash…..

Gleash! It reminds me of glam. Love it.

urtongue43:

girlsrule-subsdrool:

Leash + gag = leag? gash? gagsh? leg? No no no. None of those work. It may not have a name, but it’s hot nonetheless.

Gleash…..

Gleash! It reminds me of glam. Love it.