Oh and in other news, I’m reachable via email once more! Sat down today and dealt with the months’ long backlog (hi everybody! Still have a few left I’m working on, if you’re waiting, but it’ll be zero very soon!) Seeing an inbox with single digit number of emails feels better than an orgasm, haha. This way I’ll be able to actually keep up with them as they come in! So if you’d prefer to email (vs tumblr mail) something in regards to my last post, feel free.
"But I don’t wanna be ‘a sub’! So why does it turn me on so much?!" And other questions.
Lately, I’ve been having a lot of questions from men who are interested in submission, considering the idea of submission, wondering if submission is for them, etc. Many of them ask how other men “came to terms with” or “accepted” their submissive desires.(I get this question literally daily, so to all you lovely, curious, men worried that submission (or kink at all) is somehow “wrong,” you’re not the only one! In fact, I’d say the vast majority of kinksters go through something like seven stages, haha. First inkling, curiosity, shame, arousal, confusion, embarrassment, excitement, nervous exploration, and/or any combination of the above. It’s soooo worth the brain power to think about! Self-exploration and introspection for the win!)
Anyway! I could write my advice, and often I do try to craft the best reply I can, but seeing as I have not personally had the experience of realizing a desire for submission and then embracing it, I don’t think it is very helpful.
That’s where you come in!
I’m looking to build a master list of posts that have something to do with the theme of:
- realizing you’re interested in submission
- wondering why you like submission
- coming to terms with submissive inclinations
- thoughts about being submissive vs a switch vs dominant in individual scenes vs as an identity label
- what it means to you to be submissive
- or anything else along those lines!
If you want to write something (long or short!), that would be absolutely amazing and wonderful. If you know of an article, blog post, etc somewhere else online, I’d appreciate you sending me the link. Meanwhile, I’ll be off doing some searching of my own (I already know of a few fantastic resources that I intend on linking to! Ferns, disheveled domina, come to mind!), and possibly interviewing some of the lovely men in my life. I’ll also post this on my other blog (which is already pretty dedicated to this topic *smile*), and hope some of y’all might reblog this too so I can collect as much as possible.
I look forward to seeing what I can collect! It would make me so happy to have a master post I can refer to when these potential burgeoning kinksters write to me.